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195 | perfectionism, over-accommodation, and finding the middle ground
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇
dr. tay dives deep into perfectionism — how it shows up in autism parenting, in clinical work, and even in content creation. she shares personal reflections, a powerful story from her group therapy model, and a reminder that perfectionism can hide behind our best intentions to help.
this episode explores:
- the fine line between accommodation and over-accommodation
- perfectionism as a form of rigidity and how it sneaks into parenting
- learning to release shame and accept imperfection as part of growth
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 introduction: what perfectionism looks like in parenting
00:54 reflections from clinical practice and lived experience
01:33 perfectionism behind the scenes of podcasting and social media
02:36 when “doing it right” becomes doing too much
12:46 finding the balance between accommodation and over-accommodation
21:17 learning to release control and practice repair over perfection
25:15 a group reflection on perfectionism and shared growth
35:42 closing encouragement and ways to stay connected
RESOURCES
⚡️ join evolve: the membership — a space for parents to reflect, connect, and grow through their autism journey.
⚡️ learn more about dr. tay’s whole family approach and current clinical services at drtaylorday.com.
⚡️ continue learning from me and submit questions (they may be featured on a future episode!)
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